learn to be quiet...
being talkative, is good or bad?
I'm quite talkative, right? Everyone knows that, and maybe some of my friends hate that..
Recently, I found out that, when I am talking, nobody is listening to me.. I felt like I'm ignored.
and maybe I'm lack of knowledge, so they think that I'm saying something useless so they have no mood to listen to me?
I want to be respected, I want to be able to communicate among my friends... I found out that talkative is bad, my words worth nothing... so it's better for me to shut up.
Once again, I'm looking down on myself. I think that my friends don't really like to talk to me, is it real? I don't know..
However, it's true that I always hurt other people verbally, without realising it... probably, it happens because I'm talkative. I want to talk all the time, so.. when I have no useful information to share, automatically I would say something ridiculous, meaningless and harmful, to make some noise to fill the silence, to draw attention from them?
and, I always say something that is not appropriate with the situation...
Talk when you are needed to do so, shut up when you have no point to share;
observe, listen and keep silence, talk only when you are requested to and say something appropriate...
I should learn from my best friend who doesn't talk much and doesn't like to give much opinion. She is good, being popular among friends as her words won't hurt you and seldom give opinions.
I used to try to change her, to make her talk more, to tell out her opinions.. but now I think I want to be like her, keep silence, say less, the probability to say wrong things becomes less!
I'm now having low self-esteem, I would like to isolate myself... should I? so that I won't say any wrong words..
sigh... Elaine, be the quiet person!
3 Comments:
Yo~ you've been too sensitive, I guess.
I do believe that we should voice out our opinion when we have to. Would you just keep quiet if someone threaten your rights? Undeniable, talking do reveal our mistakes, our shortcomings, our stupidity, but isn't that indirectly allow us to identify our own hidden mistakes as well? Silence is not necessarily golden.
By the way, from what I've seen in your blogs, your english proficiency has improved a lot these days, really. Seems like blogging is quite a good way to brush up some writing skills.
em... to me, I think blogging does help me to improve my english proficiency.
Blogging is just like writing an essay, but the title is decided by ourselves.
I try to use the correct grammar, correct spelling in my writing, if possible. Besides, I will check the dictionary for the words I'm not sure of.
Thx for giving your opinion.. I know we shouldn't be keeping silence all the way... if not, I wouldn't want to change my friend to become more talkative.
But.. maybe I'm over talkative..
used my friend as an example during my presentation y'day. ... didn't know it might hurt her..until another friend told me. then i apologised to her but she say it was okay...but i learnt to be more careful when passing a comment. althought she maybe did not really take it seriously, i still felt bad because it kind of 'disturb' someone's feeling unintentionally.
so, sometimes we just have to speak wise and speak at the right time =)
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